Love is Love is Love

"Most gay people are promiscuous and don't even want to get married. They just want to bitch about their rights."

This direct quote is brought you by my sister, Christy, who apparently thinks she knows something. Let me tell you some things about Christy:

1. The majority of her friends are gay men. Conservative gay men (this is Texas after all), but still gay.
2. She doesn't make her own opinions. She listens to what the people around her say, and then she repeats it.
3. She's extremely judgmental, self-centered, and shallow.

I will refer back to this list several times during this post.

We were at Friday's today eating lunch, and somehow we got onto the subject of Prop 8. Because of fact #1 from the above list, I automatically assumed that she would want it to be repealed. I was wrong, however. She does not. Oh boy, she does NOT.

We had a conversation about it. At first, I tried to listen to her reasoning. I tried so hard to respect her opinion the way I'd like her to respect mine. I felt like that was only fair, considering that we have completely opposite views and it's probably hard for her to see where I'm coming from. But you guys... I just don't understand. It makes absolutely no sense to me. I am usually good about keeping my emotions in around my family members, but when she started explaining her reasoning, I had to go somewhere to compose myself again. I was really upset. Here's a list of her reasons for not supporting same sex marriage, along with my responses to the reasons.

My friend used to be gay, but now he's choosing to be with a woman. You can choose not to be gay.

I can't speak for your friend, but I don't believe that you choose your sexual orientation.

The Bible says that homosexuality is wrong. I don't think gay people should be able to stand in front of God and do something he says is a sin. Marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman only.

I call bullshit. Doesn't Christianity promote equality? Doesn't God give man free will? Have you even read the Bible? Jesus never said anything about homosexuality in the entire book. Seriously. Not even when he was right in front of someone in a gay relationship. And I'm pretty sure lesbianism isn't even mentioned in there. Correct me if I'm wrong.

My friend has HIV. Gay people are more likely to pass on HIV.

So being in a monogamous relationship is going to increase the likelihood of getting HIV? Really?

None of my gay friends even want to get married.

So your gay friends are obviously a comprehensive representation of ALL gay people? Right? No? Okay then. Moving on.

I don't mind if they're gay. I just don't think they should get married. I wouldn't vote against it, but I still don't think it's right.

I no longer understand this argument. Really. You seem to be completely against the idea of homosexuality.


There's a lot more, but I think this covers enough for you to understand how stupid this whole thing is. I don't even... I just can't comprehend it. It doesn't make sense to me. I can't put my thoughts into words.

But how could you be against something that doesn't affect you the slightest bit? Thousands of people are being denied the right to marry the people they love. Take a good look at the world right now. Look around. Do you see what it's like? People are hurting. Love is so hard to find, and when you find it, it's beautiful. So what if the person you love happens to be the same sex as you? You should be allowed more than a fucking civil union, whatever that is.

God forbid same sex marriage destroy the sanctity of marriages like that 55 hour one that Britney Spears had. That's fine, right? Because it was a man and a woman, right?

A little while ago, Christy came into my room and asked me if I was a lesbian. Because apparently supporting gay rights means that I am gay too. You know, in the same way that supporting rights for minorities makes me African-American. Look at me. I'm as black as they come.

This makes me so angry. I don't think I have anything left to say on the matter. If you haven't read this post by the wonderful Libba Bray, you should. It's fantastic.